I talk to a lot of women on a regular basis who are struggling to get pregnant.
The number one struggle they are facing, is they are trying to lose weight to prepare their body for a baby.
Many tell me they are confused!
They tell me they know a friend who was, overweight but didn't struggle with getting pregnant, and wonder why they continue to struggle.
Every person is different! One person's poison is another person's medicine. The food that you are eating on a regular basis could be causing inflammation in your body and not allow you to lose weight. A healthy whole foods diet and a diet designed specially for fertility are a lot different! You could be eating foods right now that are harming your chances of successful pregnancy! When you change to a fertility diet, and fuel your body with nutrient dense foods you will notice that your weight will start to decrease.
Many tell me cravings take them off track!
Those late night cravings for junk foods, chocolate and chips can be overpowering. Take this in for a moment. It is not your fault. The food industry is to blame. It is a multi trillion dollar industry that designs foods that are highly addictive so you'll eat more and spend more money! Sugar is 8 times more addictive than crack! The low fat craze, only got people more addicted to these foods, because in order for low fat food to taste palatable it has to be loaded with sugar! Take a moment and let that sink in. It's not your fault!
Many tell me they are afraid to get pregnant, because they suffered a miscarriage!
They are scared that if they do get pregnant, they may lose their baby again.
Dealing with miscarriage can be especially heartbreaking, since so many women suffer in silence. It is really important to acknowledge the pain and heartbreak. Join a support group or reach out to an empathetic friend or family member. Know that sometimes we numb our pain, by eating. We keep stuffing down the pain with the food, because we may feel that if we actually feel the pain we may crack wide open. The more we allow ourselves to feel the pain, is when we will actually start to heal. Seems counter intuitive I know, but try it! Also be aware that you may be inadvertently sabotaging your efforts to avoid having to deal with another miscarriage. Take a moment to discover if that is really a true statement. The past is not a predictor of the future.
Many tell me they just can't stay committed!
Hey I get it! Life gets in the way when we decide to make plans or set goals. We could be excited in the beginning (it seems easy), then we get invited to a party, we're tired, sad, lonely or just want to let loose. Next thing we know the goal is forgotten. We dive head first into the buffet table and don't come up for air. This is where I say, when you slip up, do you give up? You are not perfect. You are going to make mistakes, and that's okay. But the thing is to start again the next day. Small steps every day amounts to huge change. When you know your "why" for doing something you'll stay the course. Also support is crucial. If you could do it alone you already would have done it. Harsh but true. Don't be afraid to invest in some support. It will get you to your goal faster!
If any of these statements resonate with you! Take a breath! You are in the right place. How you are feeling is completely normal.
Let that sink in!
Remember, 99% of the thoughts you have today, will be the same thoughts you have again tomorrow. The question is what are you filling your head with?
I'm a failure for not losing weight, I'll always be overweight (it's in my genes), I can't lose weight I don't have any will power, I just love food and my cravings are so strong, or when I get stressed I stop eating and then when I feel better, I just can't stop eating so I binge eat.
These are completely normal thoughts given everything you have been through.
What if we look at this a little differently!
When these thoughts come up for you, start to get curious about the thoughts.
You can start to wonder why you are thinking about the thoughts.
A lot of the time we are on automatic pilot and we don't even know we are thinking these thoughts.
The first step to changing the thought is to bring awareness to it.
Once you bring awareness to the thought and acknowledge that it is a normal thought (no need to criticize yourself) you can change to a new thought.
What about a thought such as:
I am doing my best everyday to eat healthy and nutritious foods that will fuel my body and prepare it for a baby.
Repeat that statement 3 times per day!
This is your affirmation! You can post this on your phone, on your bathroom mirror or on the refrigerator door.
Know that making any kind of diet or lifestyle changes takes commitment. It will be hard in the beginning, messy in the middle and beautiful at the end.
Get really clear on your why!
If you need support I offer coaching programs that will keep you on track and get you faster results. We can also conduct functional lab tests that will help you pinpoint the exact reason you may be unable to conceive or are having miscarriages.
Sarah Clark empowers couples to discover how lifestyle and diet can dramatically impact their chances of conceiving. She was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure at 28 and had both her kids with donor eggs. Not until years later did she discover that the root cause of her infertility was a food intolerance. Ready to gaze into your baby's eyes....but struggling. Download 10 step Checklist here